Can’t Change People

You Can’t Change People.

Maybe people can change, but I think I’m finally starting to learn that I can’t bring the change for them.
Can I be an example, maybe? But expecting actions to be reciprocated is like holding my breath and waiting for them to tell me to breathe. What’s the point? I’m only hurting myself.
So maybe people can change.
I want to believe so.
I think people can also change kind of late.
They never change when you want them to.
Maybe you will get lucky. But that’s like hitting the lottery. You can spend your entire life trying to scratch off those stupid tickets, and you might die before you hit. Sometimes you might even come close, but not quite.
So what do you do when people don’t change?
Do you change your expectations? Are there non-negotiables?
I’m not sure. I wish I knew that answer.
Because how else would you know if you’re settling or not? Is settling even the worst thing in the world?
Right now, I think it is.
But don’t we all settle at some point? Right?
I got lucky with my job.
When was the last time I was serious about changing that?
Did I settle into that?
I’m happy, though.
Can you be happy settling?

Sometimes I feel like I create more questions in my answers.

People can change, though. It’s just never on your time. It’s on their time. And that’s okay. Things will work out even when you have lost almost all hope. And I think I’m there. But the rain doesn’t last forever. The sun doesn’t always shine, but it’s bound to.

One response to “Can’t Change People”

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    Nillani Fonseca

    When it comes to change! It’s for you and not the other person. Or any person for that matter! I always like to say be the best version of yourself and never try to conform to doing it on anyone’s time or terms. But your own! My motto Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. Be the change you wanna see in this world! That’s all any of us can do at the end of the day! 😊

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