Holes

We all have insecurities. Some are stronger than others. Some hide the insecurities better than the next person. The point is, we all have them, no matter how big or how small. How one chooses to deal with them is on themselves. There are times where the people around us magnify these insecurities, and there are people who make you forget all about them.

I’ve been thinking hard about this, and I’ve concluded that much of the pursuit of happiness consists of being the person that makes others’ insecurities get smaller. At the same time, you have to surround yourself with people who make your insecurities go away. I can’t imagine the key to happiness can be much more complicated than that. Obviously, I speak from experience when I say that we as human beings tend to overcomplicate our life when we choose to make things more complicated than this. That’s a point for another day.

There are things that I feel I could work on that I’ve regarded as insecurities. I’ve realized that I never actually get rid of them completely, but sometimes it makes it easier to accept them. Not that I don’t want to improve on them or anything, but at least stop myself from admitting that these are weighing me down. The first step to lessening the impact of the insecurities, I guess, is to recognize you have them in the first place.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure you surround yourself with people who allow you to sing your heart out on that car ride home. Surround yourself with people who will make silly faces right back at you. Surround yourself with people who not only tolerate those “weird” things you do but actually kind of like them. Most importantly, make sure that one of those people that accept you for who you are is the person that looks back on you in the mirror.