That’s how it happens.

If you constantly tell her you love her more than you show it with your actions, it might happen. Each time she notices something is wrong, you shrug it off and tell her everything’s all good. Even if you’re secretly just hoping she’d ask you about four more times. Maybe not right away, but four times after a few seconds while you figure out how to explain it without sounding like a dick.

Maybe it’d help if you stopped making sure she was okay. If you stopped checking in on her state of happiness and where her motivation was coming from. You could also stop being her motivation so that you can see how else she goes on being a great woman.

You could try avoiding one on one time and use the time to yourself to browse Instagram versus whatever the fuck it was you wanted to do. You could keep pushing off serious questions like you always do because, according to you, “everything will always figure itself out.” Apparently, you have nothing to do with what the universe already has planned.

Maybe you start sharing your secrets more comfortably with your laptop or your friend. You’d prefer not to answer more difficult questions or situations that you may be called out for.

You could also stop doing all of those fun things you did when you first met her, maybe keep going to the same old restaurant that she’s made clear is not her favorite.

Maybe you tell her about your dreams and continue to not include her in them. You could occasionally think about the situations that happened in your past versus the situation your in’s future.

Consider thinking that she’ll be there regardless because you have the most potential to be a great husband and a great father for her children in your head, even if you’re clinging on to that whole potential talk.

That’ll be exactly how it happens.

That’ll be how you lose her.