Winning the Breakup

My little brother recently broke up with his girl, and since he’s still reasonably young at 18, he’s trying hard to win this thing. Do you know how you have to convince yourself that you’re a lot better off without your partner? Yup, that’s what he’s trying to do.

I see it, and I’m stuck in between the thought of telling him not to try too hard and just feel whatever he’s trying to avoid or allowing him to learn from this. Being that he’s a young adult now, this is probably his first real relationship in which he was grown enough to go pick this girl up on a date and stuff. That’s why it stings a little different than previous girlfriends.

I wonder what goes through his mind?

I’ve been trying hard to think back to the first breakup that did this to me. Granted, I was in high school. I wasn’t involved with social media yet since Facebook wasn’t around (damn, I’m kind of old). So I didn’t have a platform to show out. Frankly, I was probably always losing in high school anyways. I didn’t have too much money, and I was way too shy ever to make a move on any cute girl around my school to try and score a rebound. Maybe that just wasn’t my style. Of course, that was the thought in my head that I wanted to accomplish. My goal was always to do better, date a girl that was smarter, prettier, and the whole shebang. I think it was easier for me in high school. My friends were good people. We were all just focused on going to college and making money. Kid Cudi, Wale, and Drake always seemed to find a good song to treat our whole heartbreak too. We were all just misunderstood.

Now that I think about it, it must be that much harder to win a breakup now. There’s so much that can be done on social media to make it seem like you’re good. Maybe I just see right through it because I was there before. Perhaps he’ll only learn about it later.