Time for an embarrassing fact about me that might make me lose my man card, at least temporarily. I’ve always been into romantic comedies and even just straight up sad, romantic movies. So that includes titles like, Ghost of Girlfriend’s Past, Four Christmases, and The Break Up. (Yeah, they have to be funny too). I also love the romantic side of shows such as, “How I Met Your Mother”, “Friends”, or especially parts from “Boy Meets World”.

Let’s be honest, I would find it hard to believe you didn’t want to find a Topanga (or a Cory) . I tried to mimic almost everything that Cory did. For the most part, I was trying to be upfront, cheesy, and funny. I think for the most part I was only funny for the majority of my life (which is now). Most of my life, I tried to be the right guy, but I think it always backfired with the girls I liked in my younger years. Thinking about it now, I was always a better friend than a boyfriend. I lacked confidence and courage which is a lot of what it takes. I think that didn’t take into effect until it was too late with some of my crushes, but that’s okay. I think I allowed destiny to play its part at the time it needed to.

If you have never watched Boy Meets World, let me break it down for you. Cory is a kid when we are introduced to him. He has two best friends, his bud, Shawn and Topanga. He obviously has a crush on Topanga and she is his first kiss during one of the early episodes. He knows that’s the girl he’s supposed to be with for the rest of his life and only slightly doubts it at some point. In the show you get to watch them grow up together, they apparently have every class together and she’s everything. She’s the entire package. She wants to become something, she’s smart, and she’s very pretty. Pretty much, she’s what every other guy in the show would want. Cory is a 6 at best and Topanga is a hard 9 once she’s all grown up. Cory only has his personality going for him, which let’s face it, in an apparently mostly white school is all that you need for a hard 9 to get with you. Anyways, they end up getting married and the whole deal. Real cute stuff.

I shaped my entire life trying to find something like that in real life. I viewed every girl I liked as the girl I could marry and create a story with that would make everyone forget about the Cory and Topanga story. In other words, I had very high standards. Anything else just seemed like a waste of time.

Until a few years did I realize that having a cute story like the show and having something make me feel genuinely happy on the inside was a completely different thing. It was the very real, expectations versus reality situation that I think we all have in our heads. The same situation that has us thinking we could save our partner, change the way that we feel, or maybe just trying one last time will be the same situation is normally because of those expectations we have in our heads from those love stories we’ve grown up watching.

At the end of the day we have to realize that what we have is real and what we have is not going to be ever be comparable to anybody else’s situation. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is our happiness because when has our happiness ever resulted in a negative situation? Go ahead, I dare you to think of a time where you were genuinely happy and bad things happened to you as a result of it. On the contrary, I bet I could get you to think of situations where you put yourself only to make it work “how it’s supposed to” and you just didn’t feel it. You got to realize that it’s time for some change. Pick yourself up, no matter how much time you’ve wasted and do what you have to do. It’ll all be alright.