2016 Christian Said This…

The times that I’ve had a girlfriend in the past and present the most frequent question I’ve been asked is if I think I’ve found the one, as in, the one I’ll eventually marry and spend the rest of my life with. My person, in other words. Being the fact that I always love to overthink things, it’s always a thought that has kept me up at night. I like to consider myself a smart person, therefore, I do not want to ever have the idea that I’m wasting my time. 
One thing I’ve learned over the years, love is a decision. You CHOOSE to love someone as long as you want to. Everybody could have a really exciting time with just about anybody for the first couple of days, weeks, months, but when it comes down to it you make the final call. You could choose to support those annoying traits from your partner, or you could choose to let those annoying things ruin everything. 

Maybe timing is really the only factor when it comes to relationships.

2020 Christian says this…

Timing is crazy. Timing can change your perspective on everything and sometimes just asking some deep questions for yourself will give you all the answers you’re looking for. Even when you think one way for so long, things might hit you differently as soon as you answer truthfully.
I still agree with my 2016 self, at the end of the day, love is a decision. However, I think at the end of the day, you have to be willing to be honest about what you’re willing to compromise. If there are certain compromises, you just have to be honest with yourself. If you’re ready to take next steps, you have to be honest about that too. Especially if you’re not ready to take the next steps, and maybe you want to take things slow, that’s when you have to be even more honest. Sometimes if that honesty doesn’t benefit the other party, you just have to respect it and keep it pushing. You can’t try and force yourself into liking something that doesn’t fulfill you, and you shouldn’t always hold yourself back because of something else either. Timing is a bitch. That’s always true, but dammit if you have chemistry you just have to let the universe let the science work out. If 2020 has taught you anything it should be that life can change at any given moment and the next moment is not always promised to quit living thinking about how your next decision will impact the next. At the end of the day do what makes you happy and if you’re going to love the person you have, love them with everything you have, if you’re not going to, that’s fine too, but leave it alone.